Services

Processes and Approach

Whether you are seeking the service of a High-Conflict Separation and Divorce Consultant, an Advanced Family Mediator, or a Family Restructuring Consultant, the starting process is the same.  Your first point of contact with Rosana can be made through email or a phone call, whichever is most convenient for you. 

Following your first contact with Rosana, the process for the services of a High-conflict Divorce Consultant or Family Restructuring Consultant varies from that of the services for an Advanced Family Mediator. All services are available virtually and have the same confidentiality, compassion, and integrity as in-person services.

Advanced Family Mediation Services

Mediation Offers: 

> 100% confidential process > Parenting plans developed by both parties > Upholding children's best interests

> Clarifying interests vs positions > Autonomy in decision making > Compassionate and dignified process

> Sustainable long-term plans > Legal information (not advice) > Reduced legal fees

> Written agreements by consent > Guided conversations during conflict > Forward thinking to reduce future conflict

Rosana's goal through each mediation is to keep all parties focused on the future, whether children are involved or both parties are mediating a different reason. When children are involved, it is essential that conflict is kept to a minimum while fostering healthy communication between the parties for the best interests of the children, above all else. 

Rosana practices with a forward-thinking approach to resolve differences between each individual's interests and positions. Rosana has been working within the Family Law Act, Divorce Act, and Child Protection Legislation for 18 years and is competent in providing information in all areas.

“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” 

~ William James

High-Conflict Separation and Divorce Consultant

Rosana practices with inclusivity of only one party of the separation in the role of a high-conflict consultant. This means that Rosana does not meet or collaborate with your ex-partner. It is understood that your ex-partner is a high-conflict individual, commonly referred to as a narcissist, and confidentiality is of utmost importance for your mental, emotional, and physical safety.

 I'll email you an online intake form to give you the opportunity to outline the reasons and circumstances that have brought you to seek services. The form includes the option to fill it out on your computer and is available in English. The intake form will include personal information regarding your family composition, current parenting arrangements (if any), income information, and your relationship history, which is necessary to assess the suitability of the consultant's service. 

High-Conflict Consultancy offers:

> Strategy partner > How to communicate effectively with a high conflict individual

> Documenting for court, as needed > Co-parenting/parallel parenting/conflict parenting plans

> Managing post-separation abuse > How to understand the legal system and the processes

> Avoiding mistakes during court > Controlling emotions during times of dysregulation

> Understanding emotional/psychological abuse > A strategic team member, alongside your lawyer or legal team

High-conflict consultancy encompasses all situations of the family structure, with or without children. The conflict does not cease once an agreement is reached and may often increase for a period of time. If you are attempting to leave a high-conflict relationship or have left already, you may feel the cycle will never stop. Learning how to manage your reactions and what steps are safe to take is not common knowledge.  Discover how to regain control of your life and rechart your journey.

Note: the services are 100% confidential, and all measures are taken to protect the safety of you and your loved ones - emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, and psychologically.

"Over and over again, I have learned how damaging, how unrelenting, the aftermath is from these pathological, quietly undermining relationships. "

     ~ Sandra Brown, therapist

Family Restructuring Consultant

The services for a Family Restructuring Consultant are inclusive and collaborative with both parties and any other vital persons you identify who have a significant role in your children's lives. It is essential for all parties involved in the process to provide their consent before the services are implemented. This will make it easier for you to develop any plans related to your family dynamics and your children's development. Other persons may be your ex-spouse, grandparents, close family friends, your current partner, or your ex-partner's current partner. Each family is unique, and how the children are influenced in their development is integral to their success.

Rebuilding your family after separation and divorce can be a daunting task. If you add a high-conflict individual, the task may seem impossible. Children are negatively affected and their development may be arrested for a time if they are exposed to heated disputes or subliminal messaging aimed at disparaging the other parent. 

Attempting to rebuild, especially when blending a new family, may introduce significant stress on you and your new partner. Learning how to manage a difficult 'ex', who is an integral part of your children's development, may not seem possible. Too often, relationships fail due to the tension and strife caused by the other parent of your children. 

Family Restructuring Consultancy offers: 

> Understanding the effects of separation/divorce on children > Understanding the effects of domestic violence by proxy

> Learning how to meet your children's emotional needs > Integrating a new partner into your child's life

> Learning the ages and stages of your child's development > Building a united front with your 'bonus parent' - new partner

> Reducing conflict with your children's other parent > Supporting a healthy relationship with all parents involved

> Sharing space with your youth through life changes > Learning the importance of others in your family dynamic

"Parents teach in the toughest school in the world – The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, the classroom teacher, and the janitor."

     ~ Virginia Satir